In my recent
readings including Ellen Langer's Mindfulness, I've come across the concept of process orientation a few times. This seems to be one ingredient to sustainable happiness.
Most of us have a goal orientation in our
perspectives and thoughts. When I was a
child, I would ask, “Why do I have to go to school?” My parents would respond, “So you can
graduate and get a job.” But why do I
need a job? I need a job so that I can
pay bills and support myself. With
this line of thinking, every action is done in order to achieve something
else. Nothing is done for its own
merits.
Process
orientation is training your mind to focus on the process at hand, rather than
the goal it will achieve. It's a perspective, or even a belief, that whatever action you are performing, the action has merit in itself. The idea is to find
meaning and joy in the performance rather than (or at least in addition to) the result. Process orientation does not necessarily mean abandoning
goals, but more a shift in focus. It means placing more importance on an action than its outcome. And failure, which is always defined by a goal, is interpreted as meritorious action, as part of
a process, and as an opportunity for learning.
Process
orientation acknowledges that there is no such thing as perfection. It is an orientation towards learning,
growth, and progress, instead of achievement, accomplishment, and success.
Process orientation
is a meditation. It is a practice of
mindfulness, and it requires presence in the moment. It is engagement in life.
After
learning about process orientation, I could see the benefits, but it seemed like
a daunting task to train my mind in this new perspective. So I kept the thought in back of my mind, but
I didn't do a lot with it.
A few months
later, I was having a conversation on an online dating site with a woman who told me it’s important that her partner have ambition. I responded that I don’t aspire to wealth or
prestige. My ambitions are to
be happy, to be educated, to be wise, to be a good friend, to live a life of
integrity, and to have a positive impact on the world and people around
me. But these are not goals, and by extension maybe not ambitions. Happiness, wisdom, and integrity have no final end points.
I’ll never say, “I can stop learning now, since I've already
accomplished my goal of being educated.”
And I
immediately realized that this is process orientation! Already I've been making that shift in my
mind. It's not complete, but I find
comfort and a sense of accomplishment that I am making progress.
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Thank you for reading. Use the comment tool to post any thoughts or questions. And please share my blog with others who might find value in it. May you be well and happy.
-Andy
This reminds me of a recent article which I enjoyed titled "A Verb for Nibanna". Also, viewing the 8-fold path as verbs rather than nouns.
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